What to do when… Your rapport is going nowhere… bonding’s getting boring… affinity is utterly missing… empathy is sadly absent… love is hopelessly misplaced… understanding’s totally gone
What do you do when you start feeling blah about the romance you thought was with the love of your life? You know there is romance lurking somewhere, but it seems to have gotten misplaced. Somehow you just cannot seem to bond or understand each other. You might even observe a reluctance to commit, to make firm plans to settle down, to live together or to get hitched.
Here are 18 ways to rekindle the fire. It’s not just about feng shui… it’s about taking action!
1. TAKE PLENTY OF PICTURES TOGETHER!
Take them of each other, or better yet, make sure there are always two of you in the snapshots taken. The more pictures you have together, the stronger will be the energy of affinity that gets created. Get a selfie stick and learn to use it. In today’s digital age when everyone has a smart phone with a built-in camera, these digital tools should be incorporated into your romantic life. There has never been a time in history when taking pictures has become such a big part of life and living. Use it as your relationship-enhancing tool starting immediately.
2. CREATE A LOVE ALBUM OF THE TWO OF YOU
Select the very best of your snaps and create a romantic album, a Photo-book that lays out all the days of your lives together. Be choosy and keep only pictures that record the both of you at your best. The more artfully you can capture your happiness energy the better. Nothing manufactures romantic frequencies better than a celebration of two people having eyes only for each other.
3. ALWAYS SMILE AT EACH OTHER
Yes, put away the frown. In fact, permanently get rid of the unhappy face. Practise smiling until you have perfected your own happy face, then use it as much as possible. There is great power in smiling, especially when it comes to creating special empathy with the one you love. Greet your love with a smile no matter what your mood, and always end a day together with a smile. This lifts the energy between the two of you, and in time, you will always feel happy together even though you have no idea why.
4. BORROW SONG LYRICS
Get into the habit of saying nice things to each other and if you feel you are not so good with words, then borrow song lyrics that seem to express how you feel. Take note of his/her favourite songs and learn them… nothing generates bonding more efficiently than being able to sing together, and you can only do this if you get into the habit of singing songs you have learnt specially for each other. This does not need to be a karaoke thing. Sing each time you are with one another and let the rhythms and melodies add the joyous loving energies into your space.
5. DAY DREAM TOGETHER
There’s nothing like giving voice to your ambitions and aspirations; even better if you can get into the habit of sharing your desires and hopes with each other. And when you do this, try not to be negative, no matter how foolish you may think your wishes are. When two people are positive together, their combined spiritual energies can be so powerful as to create miracles for them.
6. CHANGE YOUR LOOK
Try this! When one of you surprises the other with a new look, it is something that brings fresh vibrations to jazz up your quixotic energies. See the humour in the things you change about yourself and be lavish in your praise – it’s great applauding the courage to try out something new. Few things are as bonding as having this comfort of knowing your love for each other is beyond skin deep.
7. TAKE A HOLIDAY
If you have not already gone on a small vacation together, it is high time you did. This brings excitement to living together and there is always the promise of surprises and finding new things about each other. Make it a short trip if it is the first time for you, perhaps a short weekend excursion. And if you are still as crazy over each other, it could well be the catalyst that prompts you to take your relationship to the next level.
8. GET A SURPRISE GIFT
Do this often. Everyone loves receiving something that says “I am thinking of you”. Gifts need not be hugely expensive and usually it is the small things that can bring you closer than ever – things that suggest a private joke, a meaningful sentiment or a reminder of a place. One of the best things to get a lady love is a pendant or bracelet she can wear to show you she appreciates the thought. And one of the nicest things to get the guy in your life is a protection amulet. You will be surprised just how much men appreciate this kind of gesture that suggests genuine and deep caring.
9. DRAW HEARTS ALL OVER
This is a goofy thing, but it’s usually such a boost to any relationship when one of the pair places hearts all over the room or home to declare his/her love! If you feel you need an occasion to do this, then use birthdays or Valentine’s Day to plaster your hearts all over… it is incredibly effective and can well lead on to stronger feelings rising to the surface.
10. BE VERY FORWARD
We live currently in an age of outspokenness and permissiveness which tends to favour those who are forward rather than those who are introverted and retiring. So speak up and be bold when it comes to declaring your feelings and do so loudly and often. Praise profusely and frequently, and refrain from feeling bashful.
11. MAKE THE FIRST MOVE
Do not allow fear of rejection stop you from declaring your intentions. There are so many benefits to being open and frank about your emotions. This is the best way to move strongly forward in any relationship. When two people keep skirting the issue of what comes next, that’s when nothing will come next. Plus, it’s always the very forward and frank lady who gets all the chances!
12. SHARE LIVING CHORES
The best way to build intimacy with one another is to share the household tasks that come with just hanging out with each other. And it’s always best when both get involved. If one person does everything, the stability in the passionate energy between the two of you gets unbalanced… and things will not work out the way you want them to. For love and respect to grow, there must be mutual reciprocity.
13. WEAVE A FRIENDSHIP LOVE BRACELET
Don’t forget to embrace the small stuff! It is uncanny how things like love charms and friendship bracelets can do so much to create a powerful intimacy between two people. Put a whole lot of small and little things like this together and you will have created a chest-full of precious moments and memories. All relationships grow from gestures like this.
14. MAKE DEALS WITH EACH OTHER
It’s so good when you negotiate the things you do together. Acknowledging and accepting that you have different tastes in movies and music, and the way you feel about the other people in your life, can only make you more comfortable with each other. The energy between you then becomes smooth and endearing.
15. GAZE INTO THE FUTURE TOGETHER
This is a magical ritual! Go in search of something like a globe which you can use to create a special event together. Get a crystal globe – and on a special evening when there is no one else around, sit and gaze into the globe together. You will be surprised at the images that start to appear for the both of you! Make sure you are both in a happy and accepting frame of mind when you do this.
16. GO SHOPPING TOGETHER
Whether it is going to the supermarket together or buying a gift for someone close, there is something terribly warm about creating this kind of familiarity with each other. It is also a powerful way to create closeness. When you do this often enough, it provides the fuel that adds to the fire growing between the two of you.
17. PERFORM THE LOVE MIRROR RITUAL
Get two brass mirrors, one square and one round to symbolize heaven and earth energies. Then on every full moon night, shine the mirrors at the moon together. Do this over 9 months, and each time you do it, chant some sacred mantra dear to both of you. By the tenth month, you would be busy making plans to strengthen your commitment to each other!
18. SHARE YOUR SPACE
This is when you make the big decision to commit to each other, not necessarily by moving into each other’s house, but just to spend time doing your own thing sharing the space together. Remember when as kids how we used to love having our mum near us when we did anything at all, how just having her near made us feel good… it’s the same in love relationships. Being together generates a special magic in the space, and it happens when you can hang out and feel good without needing to be doing anything at all.