Hi everyone! Hope all is doing well.

I came to ask about a wedding date for my sister and her bf . Can anyone check to see which day would be best for them to marry?

- Female: 1 February 1985, 6:35am, Malaysia.
- Male: 20 August 1981, time unknown.

The wedding would have to be on a Saturday. They are thinking of maybe May next year or sometime near the end of this year. Any suitable dates for then?

Also, if you can find anything interesting about their future marriage life that would be good to know too, thanx =].

~nightee

Dear NighTee,




You already know who the Bridesmaid will be.




I could be a perfect Groomsman, imagine having Saphora standing besides you at the Romantic Evening.



Yes?





Saphora

lol Saph, I'm not sure about that...

Dear NighTee,



You are such a wonderful woman, might the Groomsman attracts to you. You will definitely gorgeous that day, that is for sure.


Parents always have the last words, but I will make time to take a look for you.


Even though I know that it will be hard to convince your parents about the possible wedding date. It gives also for me an opportunity to show readers how it should be. The final decisions are depending on circumstances and "community", they always try to have a final word.


I will tell you later on a recently wedding date of a colleague of mine, on Saturday 07 April 2012. I didn't have any comments on this day of them. Actually I was shocked, but I have to shut my mouth about it and let the future decides for them. They didn't know about me, and I would think "Love will conquer everything".





Saphora

Thanx Saph! Actually my parents would like to look into these wedding date things haha. It's kind of tradition, but they don't have strict views about it.

Would be interesting to hear your story and knowledge on this kind of stuff. Why are certain dates like April 7 considered bad for marriage?

Dear Nightee,



Date Selection is also part of our Asian culture. If you wed on an inauspicious day doesn’t always mean that your marriage will be bad. What inauspicious is we try to avoid, because like a fight we always want to avoid. You never know what is going to happen.

Who is going to say that day is bad? It is maybe good for the wedding ducks, but not good for their parents or maybe not good in general. We can not make everybody happy.

Nowadays it is practical to wed on a Saturday, because the most of the guest has that day off and after the party on Sunday they can still have a rest before they are starting to work on Monday. If you know about Date Selecting you will notice that there are not many good days left in a Year. You must find the best out of the worst cases.


I was concern about my colleague wedding date was, when I asked who had chosen that date. They answer that their father thought it was a good and auspicious day to wed.

I am not concern about the date itself, but more the way their father was thinking. Every father wants to be good for their daughter. Almost every old Asian people know about the Clash of the 12 Zodiac Animals. This knowledge you find it 1000 years to date. If you want to select a good date, that is the very basic knowledge you must have and almost everybody know that.

Well, at 7 April 2012, even in Asian New Years calendar you could see that, it is a Dragon Year, a Dragon month and a Dog day. If their father could know about the selecting date and their Clash, he must know that Day is clashing with the month and year, the forbidden Clash of the foundations. It is almost the worst day to select.
Even the 12 Officers Calculation it is a “Ruin Day” it says the day of the seven stars of the ladle indicates Conflicts, arguments and quarrels”.
Maybe he just look at the 28 constellations of the Star Stomach, it is a good star.

I don’t want to suggest that wedding on a good day, the Love be will forever. Like a fight, we just want to avoid such confrontations. It is just part of an Asian Culture. In the West they said, as long you don’t know, nobody cares and they are living together happily ever after.


What I normally do is:

1) the Four Pillars (if possible) of each person: Bride and Groom
2) Their planning period: is it in summer or winter, because in a raining and cold season it is not so practical.
3) The 12 Officers palace
4) 28 Stars of the Constellations
5) Avoid all the inauspicious days, there are many of those days that there is hard to get a good one. The auspicious hour is kept also in mind.

A long list of inauspicious days:
- Year Breaker day
- Month Breaker day
- Day breaker day
- Separating day
- Extinct day
- 3 Killings day
- Disaster day
- Death Angel day
- and more

If you see that list you don’t want to wed at any date anymore. Just open minded and a happy face will save the day.


As long you avoid the inauspicious days, than it should be fine. It is all we can do, and let’s the Fate do its work.





Saphora

Hey Saph,

Wow interesting to see that someone would marry on that day o.o.

Is it possible for you to suggest some days for my sis and her bf anyways? =]. Hopefully there are some good ones to choose from XD. I think it's best to be safe on this matter even if it might not have much affect.

Dear NighTee,


Step 1)
Bride’s Pillars: Year= Zi-Rat, Month= Chou-Ox, Day=Wei-Goat
Groom’s Pillars: Year=You-Rooster, Month=Shen-Monkey, Day=Wu-Horse

As you could see I have added the Green-Zone, the expected safe-zone, where all their pillars untouched. As long there are no conflicts the better, no Clashes.

It is indeed very wise of them to marry this year or next year, please do not delay it until the Wu-Horse 2014 year.

In year 2012 in month the Hai-Pig is reasonable.

Step 2)
Let’s us see if in Hai-Pig month is any good Saturdays.

31 November 2012: Good
24 November 2012: Reasonable Bad
17 November 2012: Worst
10 November 2012: Reasonable Good


Why? 31 November 2012: Good
Year=Chen-Dragon, Month=Hai-Pig
Day=Shen-Monkey

Day Shen-Monkey is combine with Year Chen-Dragon, is good point. Shen-Monkey, Chen-Dragon form a Combine with the Bride’s Year of the Zi-Rat is auspicious. There is no Yin-Tiger in the Bride and Groom pillar, so it is good.
Day 31/11/2012 has the Star “Acceptance”, a Day to arrange Wedding.


I do not recommend choosing in Month December, month of the Zi-Rat, because the Spouse pillar of the Groom is a Wu-Horse pillar, the change that their marriage will under pressure is significant.


In January and February are the period that Asians go on holiday to their origin country to celebrated Chinese New Year. You could expect some canceling of the invitations.

So we are arriving in the Year of Si-Snake 2013.

In the Month Chen-Dragon April 2013 I have chosen the weekends:
6 April 2013
13 April 2013

In the Month Si-Snake May 2013 I have chosen the weekends:
18 May 2013
1 June 2013 (still in Si-Snake month)

These are a few days that are good for the Wedding Ducks and in general also good for everybody, the quests.


In general the ceremony will take place between 10 Am – 2 Pm, because they need time after that to make some photos and preparing for the Night-Party.

It is not practical to marry at a very auspicious hour very early in the morning, because the night before that maybe they had a very rough night, hardly to get up the next morning. To choose an Auspicious Hour is harder for that reason.

The restaurant and all other things need to reconsider too, so it must be practical and not focus only the Dates only.

Please these Selecting Dates are just a guideline how this Metaphysic works, no 100% guaranteed for Happily Ever After. It is programmed all in their Destiny, what to do or what to choose. I am just a second Opinion guy.


Next time we could try to balance other Possible Dates as well, like in Month December 2012, January 2013 or February 2013. It must be reasonable and flexible with the Dates.



Saphora

Thanx for the date options Saph! .

So far I think 18 May 2013, 1 June 2013 looks promising but I'm not sure about the 31 November 2012 coz there is no such date O.o. Did you mean 1 December or 30 November?

Also with choosing dates do we need to also look at the Lunar Calender too?

Will see what the couple decides soon ^^.

~nightee

Dear NighTee,



Yes, you are sharper than I, what can I do without you. We should see each other more often, my personal Bazi assistant.



It is 1 December 2012, it is a Saturday.




Saphora