Hi,
I am again in love trouble.
I wont give in grandmother story here but need help to compare if my DOB is compatible with the one i like.
Many people advice me not to take on this relationship and I would like to know the outcome if we are together.

Here is the data

My data
Sex: Male
DOB: 9th April 1988
Hour: 0230

The one I like
Sex: Female
DOB: 24 April 1988
Hour: 0930

* She is my ex.

Can anyone please help me analyze?

Dear CKS999,




I do like your 999 Roses for Love.


Could I please give some advice to you?


Not every man could win the heart of such beautiful and desire woman, you must be special!!




Saphora

Saphora,

I greatly touched with your prompt reply to my dire help.

Yes, I need ya advice in detail...

Can you explain to me in details? From A to Z if you dun mind. I am seriously curious and in dire need for help. ><lll

We are currently official couple but i dunno what the future holds since we did break up before 3 years ago. My love towards her remain strong until now but we are still doubt about our future...especially her. Can you please give some guidance? I am gladly accept your prediction, Saphora.

Dear CKS999,




One of the reason why I reply is I do try to give you a picture of your life. I will give you my time a whole week to answer all your questions, a week is normally my average response time for decoding. Decoding cost lots of Energy, you know.


Like any sport I do need a warm-up for decoding, but I am telling you it will turn out sour muscle-ache.


I just need a few second to look at both of your Charts, I already have head-ache. Both of your Charts are not pretty to decode, I am struggling to make a good picture of it.


Well, let's us start with a quick warm-up.


Both of you have a double Dragon-pillars, as a Bazi-reader should know is when 4 Dragon-pillars (you and her) in a same house, they are too busy kicking each other all the time. In April 2012 there will be another 2 Dragons strengthened your Pillars.


With other words, in my first impression, Love will be a struggle in long term. I always give Love a second chance, because it is Fate that brings us together in the first place.



I will come back to decode it further.


If you have any urgent questions, I will answer them first.




Saphora

Thank you Saphora,

I know our bazi compatibilty is not pretty well

I will come back to you in a week.

I am not urgent anymore as I finally end this relationship. Perhaps fate is not on our side.

Btw, if u dun mind, I still want to know our compatibility and what will happen if we are really together.


Thank you in advance, Saphora.

Dear CKS999,



Looking at your Chart, I do understand your anger and despair.

When I was at your age, I di make lots of mistakes.


Example for your Ex, she is a lovely girl, very beautiful. She can get any man she wants. She feels very confident in herself. There is a hidden danger in her chart. She does need help about Luck, Love and Health. In long term she will face lots of obstacles.

And You!. You are handsome, manly and also lots of confident in Love. I am very sure lots of woman will attract to you for your strong and manly body and handsome face. You do need help in long term too. The best help is understand your Fate, like I told you before about your unpleasant Chart.

What happened in the past had a meaning, it was not your fault or your parents fault. It was only not the way you had wished to be.

Love needs two persons to understand each other.


If your Ex post a thread in room "Health" I will explain that there is something wrong about her.

About your Love-life with your Ex, it will not be the same anymore. If you both want to go together in life, you have to work much harder than a normal couple.


Nothing is impossible in this world, if you still love her, why not a second chance.


As I told you before, it is for me easier to answer your questions, from A to Z, means 36 questions I don't mind to answer all of them.


You could ask about your relationship with your mother or father. You could ask about your family. You could ask about your education. You could ask about your inheritance. You could ask why in that year you had lots of troubles.


I can not summarize 36 questions for you, but you can.




Saphora

Dear Saphora,
I believe in fate and the time we get together, I can feel that we are suppose to become good friend but not sure if we can become long lasting couple. I know her since 8 years ago.

I am very glad to hear from what you said in this thread. I dunno if she realize her health problem but I am sure she knows it long time ago.
Yes, she has alot of men after her. Thats I am sure.

Although I have the shape to have good body but i dint work it out. About girls, I am not very sure if there are a lot of women will attract to me. Coz i never experience that before. T.T

For this whole month, I am sorry to tell you that I will bother you. I sincerely apologize on my annoying attitude.

My first question is:

I hope she is my ONe. but, If she is not my One, when my One will appear? I mean, in which particular year my One will appear the most and for sure? Can you give me roughly year coz i know nothing is 100%.

What is the year she will marries and what is the year I will marry? From this, I think i can know if she is the ONE. If yes, I will work hard to satisfy her.

Bout my parents, I know, particulaly my mum loves me the most. They care for me bout sometimes I take them for granted coz I want independent They granted it to me and I am thankful to them. Sometimes I feel sorry for them.i will work my best.Can I prove myself that i will not let them down?

Let me know if u feel like stop answering my thread anymore. I don't want you to waste your precious time answering my selfish questions. ><lll

Again, thank you for your encouragement words.

Dear CKS999,




First Bazi-reader just read 6 or 8 Characters from thousands of the same DOB. Not everybody has the same parents and their family-environment, but they do have the same Planetary Energy.


The most famous question: when do I get married? If you paid 500-1000 USD or more to get that answer online, they can not give you that. If you are single that answer will be harder, because you will miss the 50% of information.

I can formulate your question differently.


When is the best time and likely to get married? I can answer that.

Let’s look a bit closer at your chart.


When two people are attracting to each other to form a family and having children, I must say you and her score a high mark. Why?


Even she gets distract from other men, she will always come back to you, guaranteed. She in Yin Earth as DM, she will always have the attraction Energy to a Yang Wood like you.

Yang Wood and Yin Earth form a tremendous attraction Energy, together they will give children. Children are for your girl-friend an “Output-element”, or escape from all the pressure. She needs it desperately.

Unfortunately in year 2011, the pressure was too high, she did need a “break”, because she had so many problems in that year that she could handle it all.


From 29-39 yo, everything is going to happen, your best 10 years. “Direct Wealth” could mean in this period you will start a Family; the Marriage Energy is at strongest peak.

To balance the ten year Luck Earth Ox, the best year to get married is the Rooster year 2017. Your Month and Year pillars are still dominating your chart, so a Rooster and your double Dragon form a Total Harmony combination. Secondly year 2017 will distract the Harmful Ox and Horse combination.

For you in 2017 is the best year to get married.

Now we have to look at your girlfriend’s chart if she is ready in 2017, because Marriage needs to bring Luck on both sides, right?


For a woman, after the wedding one of her goal is to have children to form a happy family.

For a Yin Earth DM like her, Metal-element is her Children-aspect. In 2017 there is a Harmonic Combination of Metal (Rooster and Ox), which is goods news for having Children. Due to her un-balance chart it is better not to wait till her 40 yo to have children, it could be harder.

Thereby her Spouse pillar (you) will bring Harmony with her double Dragon-pillars.


With all these information it is the best time to get married is in 2017, she will be pregnant in the same year, like how it should be. The best time to give brith is in August 2017, keep in mind about 9 months and 10 days of pregnancy.


Sure, the first 40 years of both your life will be struggle, but nothing will last forever. After the rain, the sun will shine into your life, till then it is just biting through.


Like my life, it is not always pretty, lots of up and downs.



Please do not worry, although she knows lots of people and friends. Even though she has attractions beauty to other men, but the most irresistible hunk there is, are you.

She will make lots of money for you; if I were you I will keep her in my heart and to be a man for her.


She is the One.





Saphora

Dear CKS999,




I do have just one question for your girl-friend, I do need it the extrapolation of her future Luck.



Could you please ask her what had happened to her or her Family health in year 1999 when she was 11 years old?



These could be a major incident in her Family situations, like a separation or landing in a hospital for an operation.




Thank you in advance.





Saphora

Dear Saphora,
Dont thank me please because I am the one who is seeking your gracious help. i feel happy and lucky when you finally decide to decode for me.

All I knew was she had an stomach operation before. I saw the scar on her stomach. She told me she had had operation when she was young, but didnt tell me at what age.

From the words you told me, I feel in dilemma because she was fated to marry before the age of 28 (chinese lunar calender). If I would choose rooster as my calender wed, it will clash with her one at all. In the end, she is not my ONE. Sorry, maybe it is my depress thinking. I am not denying your capability to decode chart, just my attitude is bad. Dont put into heart ok? ^^

I talk to her last night and i think she is in 15/16 which do not know if we are really the ONE. She and I was keep on saying as we are really not to meant for each other. I think this is stupid since it is against my feeling for her.

I do understand Bazi is only giving us the picture but not real life. I just want to know the aftermath. Thanks Saphora for decoding it for me. If we never be together also, I do not have any regret because I have done what I didn't do in 3 years ago. I just want her to have happy life and a good husband in future.

By the way, I have few more questions, My parents seem like against her going on with me, especially my mum. Although she didnt speak directly but I can see from her face. Can you explain it?

You did mention every time she detached from a man, she will come back to me. But the feeling is not same and it is hard for her to accept me too. To be truth, the feeling is not the same as you said. Even come back also for a while right? ><lll means she will go for other guy when there is one?

Dear CKS999,




Her health is indeed very bad, her overwhelm Earth-element will weakened her immune system.


Earth element is according to the Traditional Chinese Medicine, her Stomach or Digested Network, I do sense a operation in her spleen network. This problem will be not over in the future, even after the operation. That's the weakness of Western Medicine, just remove the nasty part and they would think it will be solved the problem. It won't work like that.



As I tried to tell you about April 2012, this year is not a good year to have a clear mind about Love.


I do believe in your relationship together. As I told you before Love-life is getting better after 40 yo, till then some issues need to be solved.


Just keep contact with her, she will always attract to you.


It doesn't matter who you two are dating both of you will face the same fate. That's the reason why I do recommend that Love should deserve a second chance.


Love is not all about Intimacy, in long term there are many things to be solved and understanding, sacrifices and Care for each other are the strong foundations for a long relationship.


Mother in Law could never get along with their daughter in law, it is cosmic or Bazi proven. It doesn't matter who your GF is, your mother will not like it either. You don't live forever with your parents, right?

Your Water-element is weak, that's is the reason why you do need your mother-Love. Yes, it will not be easy to choose between your GF and your mother, please don't make it more worst than it is.




Your wife is the future, mother of your children, your next generation.



Because your GF is attractive and self-confident, your mother is a little afraid that she might leave you again. Nothing is serious.



In my experiences she will come back to you, nobody is perfect. Yes, indeed her mind is not that stable.




Saphora

Dear CKS999,





Let’s me explain the myth about “Mother in Law”, the fear of most un-married woman. Some watch too much Chinese Drama about Queen and Princess, but in real life is not much different.


Let’s take your example to show other woman in this Forum.


First in General:
For a Wood DM, his mother is a Water-element. His Wife is an Earth element. As you could see Water is threatened by this Earth, because Earth destroys Water. This is one of the reasons why the “Mother in Law” couldn’t get along with her son’s wife.

Sometimes it is good that the Daughter in Law controls the nasty mother, like in the Chinese Love story.


Now in your real example:

Again your Water-element represents your Mother-Love. Water element is weak, so every drops of Water of her, you do need it all. Oke, it is far from enough, but it is better to have something than nothing, right.

As you also could see in your Girl-friends chart, her overwhelm Earth-element will dominate her chart. When she is with your mother, her overwhelm Earth-elements have the intention to absorb your entire mother Energy. That’s why your mother unconsciously feels threatened in her existence.


Now, it doesn’t necessary that all Mother in Law feels threatened by her son’s wife. If your Resources Element, like Water, is strong than your mother will never feel threatened.

All the ladies out there, whenever you choose a man with enough Resources elements, than I am sure that the ladies will spend more times shopping with her fearless “Mother in Law” arms in arms like friends.


That’s not the reason why I worry about your Girl friend. Her health I have mentioned before. Water-element is her Re-productive Organs Network; I did try to approach tenderly about her children. With kind of chart like your girl-friend I do strongly recommend her to have children before 30 years old.
Her first operation will not be the last one, because if she waited too long she will have a difficult labor and during her pregnancy her hormones level will not stable also.


Hearing this doesn’t mean that you dump her and choose another woman, wrong!

Fate is already been set; if you loose her you will meet the same lady. This is the reason why I do recommend to give Love a second Chance; together share the dreams and also the nightmares. Together you will be strong.




Saphora

Thanks Saphora for further detail.
I will tell her bout her health issue.

I lack of water and yes, my mum is water element and source of my wealth in fact. This means I am constantly dependent on her if not mistaken. I dun mind sacrifice in love but doing it blindly will also sacrifice others right? Especially my parents whom only have me as only son.

To tell you the truth, I love this girl very much because of her personality and character which make me feel mad in love. Too bad, I broke up with her already. T.Tlll As for fate, although you said we are facing the same fate, I will just hope for the best since we cannot calculate the god's intention.

Yes, she keep in touch with me till now and said thinking of me. ><lll I am happy to hear that but I am afraid to reach out at her because I don't plan for another break up again.


Actually I am going to see a medium who can foresee the future and fate of a person in next month. That medium told her that her husband should be older than her 1,2, 5 or 7 years. Then her mum asked the medium if the husband can be in same age or not. the medium think awhile and said yes as long as older than her. I am older than her 15 days but in the same month. Thats all I know. The medium some more said she and her husband will become boss at age 40. Another interesting fact is that she and I will do own things and will not interfere each other works. Furthermore, she told her that she do not need to worry bout housing as her husband will have house ready in future. This is what she told me. However, your kind and gentle advice make me feel ardent and confident. I am glad you also advice other people in the same way in this forum.

I am a very curious person bout mystic and mysterious people like you and the medium. That is why I would rather spend to see them. I am interested in learning Bazi but lazy to do it. Hahahz.

You did mention she is overwhelming with earth element, I am weak wood, will she overwhelmed me???

Dear CKS999,




I am saving the best for last.


I don't like telling a man to let his wife working for him. In your circumstances it is auspicious for both of you if she is working hard for the money.

Her Water-season is coming to her, Water will cool her down, that is very good news. Secondly Water will increase your Resources, that's another good news.


Water is also her wealth, it means it is much better for her if she brings the money to you, right?


It is normal not fair that the woman is making money, but for you it is an exception.


This is one of the reason why I do recommend you to marry her and make her happy and wealth is coming to you.



See?! You are the man. I told you before.



The other tips for you is, taking bath more often with her, the longer the better.


Put Rose Parfum in bath, lots of soap, give her a warm massage. Water in bath will increase both of your Luck.


See?! Use Feng Shui wisely and both of you will enjoy it.





Saphora

I try my best Saphora.

I am not the guy to ask for money. I will do my part...in seperate way. She do hers, i do mine. As long as she done her part without disturbing mine, i am happy. Also, i dun expect to share her wealth sitting at home doing nothing. I will feel bad.

CKS

Saphora,

You are right. She did surgery in her 11 years old. I just asked her.

Btw, you keep saying she and I are fated, I am curious. Is there any sign in our chart to prove this? I dun mind going hardship with her. I know every couple must go thru hardship to form love. I am not an exceptional...?

You did mention that if I don't get with her now, in the end, I will still end up with the same lady? What do you mean by this? End up with her or other lady with same character like her?

Lets say I am not her ONE, I would like to know in what year is the best year for her to get marry? Same as me?


Thanks Saphora.

CKS

Dear CKS999,


Just prepare for the wedding in 2017 with her, you have plenty time to tell her about it.

Yes, tell her about it, about your feelings like in the old song of Billy Joel:

"
Listen boy
Don't want to see you let a good thing
Slip away

You know I don't like watching
Anybody make the same mistakes
I made

She's a real nice girl
And she's always there for you
But a nice girl wouldn't tell you what you should do

Listen boy
I'm sure that you think you got it all
Under control

You don't want somebody telling you
The way to stay in someone's soul

You're a big boy now
You'll never let her go
But that's just the kind of thing
She ought to know

Tell her about it
Tell her everything you feel
Give her every reason to accept
That you're for real

Tell her about it
Tell her all your crazy dreams
Let her know you need her
Let her know how much she means

Listen boy
It's not automatically a certain guarantee
To insure yourself
You've got to provide communication constantly

When you love someone
You're always insecure
And there's only one good way
To reassure

Tell her about it
Let her know how much you care
When she can't be with you
Tell her you wish you were there

Tell her about it
Every day before you leave
Pay her some attention
Give her something to believe

Cause now and then
She'll get to worrying
Just because you haven't spoken
For so long
Though you may not have done anything
Will that be a consolation when she's gone

Listen boy
It's good information from a man
Who's made mistakes

Just a word or two that she gets from you
Could be the difference that it makes

She's a trusting soul
She's put her trust in you
But a girl like that won't tell you
What you should do

Tell her about it
Tell her everything you feel
Give her every reason
To accept that you're for real

Tell her about it
Tell her all your crazy dreams
Let her know you need her
Let her know how much she means

Tell her about it
Tell her how you feel right now
Tell her about it
The girl don't want to wait too long
You got to tell her about it
Tell her now and you won't go wrong
You got to tell her about it
Before it gets too late
You got to tell her about it
You know the girl don't want
To wait--you got to
Tell her about it







Yes, tell her all about the wedding date!.




Saphora

Ok ok Saphora.

I think we have to stop here. It seems you have convey the message to me already. I will see what the medium tells me.

I really want to say thank you for your continuous advice and support.

Now I can see why all the people here wants you to read bazi for them. It is because of ya strong and supportive answer. Plus you convey it in relaxing way!

I might need ya help again in near future!

Thanks alot Saphora!

Thank you!

CKS

Dear CKS999,



Before you go to the real "Medium", please let me select you a good Date for you.


If that "Medium" is real, and you go on the wrong Date, you might see something else besides a that "Medium".



Be carefull with that and

PLEASE DO NOT GO ON FRIDAY 13TH APRIL 2012 BETWEEN 7 - 9 AM.


You defenitely see something else, I do know both of you thrilled such kind of adventure.

It is typically Dragon and Snake combination, creates "Magic" or Ghost or Medium or beyond that.


Bring an extra underwear with you, you might S... in your pants with fear.






Saphora