Hi I've been out of work for a few years now and find it difficult to get a job and still not very clear on what I really want to do or should do as a career. I tend to lack self belief in this matter and afraid of social and appearance issues, which makes me avoid a lot of jobs too. Will I have any luck soon? Any ideas on what I can do? Any guidance will be greatly appreciated.

I'm female, born on 30th June 1987, at 5:40am in Malaysia.

You have solved your own problem in the first sentence, even if you did not realize it. You will be fine, just take some steps to help yourself.



Because you do not know what you want to do, employers do not know what you want to do or can do either, so they do not hire you.
Because you lack self belief, and worry about appearance & how others will think of you in the job, you present an image of a person who is more worried about what their friends think about the job, when you should be trying to show an employer that you have the skill to do the job. This has led you to a place where you don't know what you what and because of that, have never learned any skills to show your value as an employee to a business.

You must make a decision to acquire basic skills to get a job. After you start working, go to a local school (trade, business, etc) and find what programs they have so you can advance yourself. The first courses are basic - language, math, etc so you have time to explore a career
while taking these courses. What so you like to do? Sew, decorate a room, work with children, design clothing, draw? All of these could lead to interesting careers - clothing design, interior decorator, teacher, jewelry designer, artist. You only need to sit & talk with someone at a school to assist you to focus and drect your talents.

All the best to you,
lady moon

Hi lady moon,

I never had a clear view of what I wanted to do and so I keep changing my mind and have not committed to a certain job yet. What you said makes sense, I do worry too much about other things, when I should focus more on gaining skills or applying more. I really do need to overcome my low self-esteem issues and fears =/. At the moment I am thinking of maybe doing a print finishing kind of job and waiting to see if there are any opportunities.
Is it possible to see if I will have some success on this matter soon?

Thanx for the advice =].

~NighTee

No, you will not have sucess because "you are waiting to see if there are opportunities." If you want sucess, you get the skills first and then make your own opportunities when you meet people in that field and work with them. If you have skills in this field, take any job to get back into the field and learn more to suceed.
Get training; if you have some skills in that area, get an entry level job now. Go back to school and get more training and improve your skills.
Feng Shui is only 1 part; there is also man luck & heaven luck. Luck comes to the one who is the most prepared. Go and get prepared.
You can do this and be a sucess - just make the decision to do it, and forget what others think.

Now, go and make some "luck"!
lady moon

I understand what you are saying. I do want to get the skills and be trained but I also need to find an employer to get training with. That is why I am waiting to find one that offers training. I guess if I can't find one I should look at doing something else =/.

Cheers!
~ NighTee

Can you get into a school that has internships and on the job training programs? Be proactive and this will workout to your advantage.
Are you working now? If you are, this will make you more actractive to an employer. We both know this will work out for you. Look at every opportunity and see how it will help you reach your goal.

Good luck.
lady moon

I don't have a job yet, but today I just got a phone call and have a job interview tomorrow! :O I am freaking out at the moment XD. Hope it goes well. I'll let you guys know how I went when it is over =]. I will need heaps of luck haha.

~nightee

Ok I got a job!! yay finally haha. Now I just gotta try to not get fired >.>.

You will be sucessful! Enjoy the job & learn to advance your skills. Keep your focus on the job, & everything else will come to you.

All the best,
lady moon

How are things on the new job? We are all excited for you. New year, new begining.

Thanx lady moon =]. So far so good ^^. The people are nice and the job seems to suit me so far, though it is tiring at times and I have less free time now lol. I think I can stick at it for a while. It's holiday time now so I get some rest.

I was also wondering, if you work in a career for your element it would be better? I think my career element is wood and since I'm working around a lot of wood that would be good for me right? If anyone can explain this thanx =].

Ok hope everyone has a good holiday!

The career is a wood element career, so this will be good for you. I suggest you stay at this job for at least 2 years to establish yourself in this field. You will make many good contacts & be successful.

Have a great New Year in you new career!

all the best,
lady moon

Thanx lady moon, and have a BIG HAPPY NEW YEAR to everyone! .

Congrats on your new job, NighTee! It sounds like things are going well! Job satisfaction definitely makes a difference when it comes to quality of life!!!

Forgive me for the beginner question, but I am interested in how you found your career element? Did you get it from the day master? How do you know that your career element is wood?

Thank you! Hope it continues to go well!

Hi Sunshine292,

Welcome to the forum! =]. Agreed, it's good to have a job you don't totally hate haha.

I'm still very much a noob myself so don't think I can answer you with confidence XD. I just thought my career element was wood from a website calculation, though I think wood is meant to be a favorable career element instead. I have also been told that Fire is actually my likely career element as it is the most dominant element in my chart. The job I'm at now involves a lot of paper so I figured it's a wood job.

Hopefully someone more knowledgeable can come along and help us learn about it more and can answer your questions better.
Anyone out there can help us noobs out? haha.

Thanx =].

~NighTee