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10 common feng shui booby traps and how to avoid them. The results simply refuse to come, and you are on the verge of giving up.... LILLIAN TOO explains where you might have gone wrong and offers some solutions.
1. GREAT EXPECTATIONS
You have just discovered this living skill. You have watched as your best friend gets promoted, finds a dishy guy and seems to be blooming overnight all seemingly due to good feng shui. You have been seceretly practicing for a couple of weeks now and still life is drab and unexciting as ever. Expecting too much too soon is one of the biggest feng shui blunders. Feng shui is a complex practice and results are a function of different forces. Putting too intense an expectation of results can often cause obstacles to arise because of all the negative angst you are generating..
Take it easy. Relax and steady should be your attitude. Remember that feng shui is about being protected against bad things happening so when life is boring, it can be that things are moving along so smoothly you feel bored. Think this through carefully and you might start to see how feng shui has already worked for you without you even realising it!
2. LOOKING FOR INSTANT RESULTS
When you first start it is understandable that you will be on the constant lookout for fast results, constantly checking for progress. When it is love you seek, you expect to meet that special someone everyday not realising that sending out these kinds of desperate vibes has just the opposite effect. And if money is what you have activated for, keeping a daily vigil for money to drop from the skies will not do the trick.Feng shui rarely works like this !
Usually, good things creep up on you without you noticing. Let your luck build up steadily and in whatever speed is in sync with your personal chi energies. Feng shui always brings results but the speed with which it works differs from time to time and from person to person, so get your feng shui done and then let it go. Leave it to the cosmos to bring you the results you want without you having to keep checking.
3. CONSULTING TOO MANY “EXPERTS”
The kiasu attuitude in all of us makes us ask too many people for their opinion. We cannot help wanting to check with anyone who claims to be an “expert” whether what we are doing is right or wrong, assuming they must surely know. Experts know things from their own perspective and when answering your questions often do not have the same perspective as you. When you consult too many experts, you cause yourself to get confused and this can cause you to get things mixed up. Here is where problems almost always arise because the end result is a rojak of methods that does not work. A bit of this and a bit of that is definitely not good feng shui practice.
The key to success is to understand exactly what you need to do, and to have confidence in yourself. Sometimes it is better to keep things simple. Never let self styled “experts” cause feng shui havoc in your home, especially when they fiddle with your directions, or even worse, cause you to undo all the good you have done. Stay the course and have faith in your own methods.
4. GETTING SIDE TRACKED
It is easy to get distracted when trying to do too many things at the same time. Better to go step by step.Take an organised approach and be clear what you want to achieve. Feng shui is a complex practice that involves design, construction, arrangement of layouts, appearance and aesthetics. It is not a straightforward matter so try not to get sidetracked. Instead, get organised and stay on course. Those who get the best results from feng shui are not those who know the most formulas. They are those with a clear perspective of what they want to achieve from using feng shui.
Plan your feng shui practice carefully. Start by making sure your annual updates are taken care of so you and your family do not get hurt by time afflictions. Install all the cures, remedies and enhancers. Next, protect and insulate against negative cosmic chi. Finally, activate to attract different kinds of good luck. I have been using this approach for over thirty years and it just keeps getting better!
5. OVERWHELMED BY ALL THAT CLASSICAL STUFF
Worse than terminology is the arrogance of “staying pure to the lineage” as if feng shui were a DEAD PRACTICE FROZEN in the China of 4000 years ago! The chi energy of those days were most definitely different from modern day environments and to ignore this can cause serious blunders in your practice.
Look on feng shui as a dynamic, evolving practice. Recognise that environments today are a completely different landscape, generating very different energy from ancient environments. So do not get too uptight about all the vintage stuff. Instead, look for new ways to use old formulas and keep in sync with the new environment of today.
6. NOT USING A PROPER COMPASS
How easy it is to take the lazy appraoch and “guess estimate” the compass directions using nothing more than the direction of the sun to pinpoint specific orientaions. This is one of the most common blunders that can cause your feng shui to go wrong. This is because good feng shui depends on correct orientations and you need a compass for this.
Invest in a compass. Get a luo pan if you have ambitions to be a feng shui consultant. Amateur practitioners need only a small compass, but it should be well made and well insulated against the magnetic fields around us. Get into the habit of taking your orientation at all times. You will get some spectacular results just tapping your auspicous directions and avoiding your unlucky directions.
7. TOO MUCH PERFECTION
Too many of us get immobilised by wanting perfection. No house has perfect feng shui. So when you try to get everything perfect, chances are everything goes wrong.
Accept that feng shui practice requires us to choose from varying options. In feng shui, many things must be taken into account so it is better to give up on the idea of following everything perfectly to the T.
8. SKIPPING THE HARD PARTS
There is preparation work before one is able to design one’s space to capture feng shui. Preparatory work should never be compromised. If you skip the hard part, it is harder to get the results.
Avoid making big mistakes by being careful about your analysis. Good feng shui comes from good analysis of the landscape and the effect of the charts on the different sectors of the house. Dont skip the hard parts.
9. GETTING HUNG UP ON TERMINOLOGY
Feng shui has become so popular we are seeing plenty of opinions on what feng shui is and how feng shui should be practiced. The danger of this is that we can get too hung up on terminology as a result, causing blunders to occur.
It is best not to worry about the way feng shui is defined. What is important is to look at what YOU want to do. You can incorporate anything you want into your practice if that makes you happy. Definitions and terminologies only cloud the real practice so rise above these things.
10. NOT USING CONVENTIONAL WISDOM a.k.a. COMMON SENSE!
It is so easy to get hung up on “expertise” that we give up on using good old common sense. Never belittle the importance of conventional wisdom. Even as we use feng shui, we should also use our brains.
Feng shui is about good sound common sense and it is this that ensures everything is approached rationally and with a big dose of our personalised cultural beliefs and habits. Feng shui must be used to serve us. It is after all a skill – a tool for us to use with wisdom. So whenever you are in doubt about anything, ask yourself if it makes sense to you.