lady moon wrote:
Rainie,
You said you had been with other men before and thay had also cheated and asked if all men cheat. You seem to be a very carring person but it could be that some see this in you and are taking advantage of your sweet nature.
To protect yourself and to find one who will truly care for you, please consider this choice. Seek out a professional who specializes in relationships - a therapist who is skilled and can assist you to be able to connect better with people and to better understand the nature and character of the men in your life and why you have made the choices you did.
This will give you the skills to see who really cares for you and which people will are only interested in advancing their own self interest - as these are the ones who will cheat. You will then be able to pick the out the good ones and know which to keep and which men are the loosers. (it is like going to the market - all the fruit looks pretty until you examine it, and only then can you tell which to buy and which is rotten on the inside
).
Take the time to learn more and more will come into your life. There is a person waiting for you, take the time to learn who it is.
all the best,
lady moon
If a guy is willing to change, you don't even have to ask. He will know what exactly to do if he really loves you.
You dont have to stick to a wrong man just for fear of being lonely. There will be someone out there who is willing to share his life with you, wholeheartedly.
Some man cheat and they repent. Some cheat twice, and say sorry (just for the sake of your tears). Their words tell you they are sorry, but after which..
Actions and behaviour will reveal their true character.
Don't just listen and feed yourself on the "sorry, i'm wrong i still love you. This will be my last time, i promise i will change.. if not i will blah blah blah (promises are being made)"
Have you ever played a game whereby you hear a word from the 1st person and carry on until whisper it to to the last person in the circle? (sorry i dont know the name of the game)
Eg, the actual word is purple..the last person will say :" I thought i heard the word turtle"
Sometimes you cannot just depend a relationship on what you hear..
Sometimes you have to wake yourself up and face the facts.. Open your eyes and see the truth..
