I have many RS that doesn't work out and have met this person recently, the weird thing is we're so much alike.

I'll like to find out more about our compatibility.

This is my chart, 29 April 1979, Female, SG, 4.10am
庚　丙　戊　己
寅　寅　辰　未

This is his: 16 May 1979, Male, SG, 3-4am
甲 癸 己 己
寅 未 巳 未

I read that I have Tai Yin and Tai Yang in my Spouse Palace in ZWDS and that my husband should be someone much older. So, he shouldn't be the one for me right? Yet, I've never felt this way towards a guy before.

Am I the right fit for him as a long term partner/wife? I know he has 7K at his bazi spousal palace, does this mean that his marriage is not good? Maybe it's better for him not to get married?

Hope someone can help.

Hi Saphora,

You're very accurate in your reading and I would love to have you help me read if you don't mind.

Hope to hear from you soon. You have a good day!

Cheers!

Dear Pew,



It is my honor to hear someone calling my name.


Very quickly scan both of your charts, I would think that I am the One who will cause troubles.

Lately I receive many sad Charts, I would think I have bad Attractions Energy or It is my Fate not to decode the Happy side of the Love Story.



I do believe in the Balance of Mother Nature.


In your case it is beautiful how Mother Nature had arrange this Combination. Everytime I am surprised of her Love-work.


Before I decode your chart, I would like to make a comment.


I remember my Father used to say:


"Every Pan fits its own Lid, so does Love". I would say every Chart has its meaning and it fits with the other Chart.




Saphora

Hi Saphora,

Thank you for taking the time to read my post. It is my honour indeed instead for you to spend time on it.

I used to come into this forum until my I had problems with my account. Until recently, I saw your may replies and many forumers seeking your wonderful love advises that draw me to come in again.

Your way of writing is really enjoyable to read and I love the way the way you write in riddles at times. Life is serious but why take things so seriously sometimes? I believe that if it's meant to be, it'll be.

Please do not worry about me pinning all hopes on my bf be it whether he is the one or not from bazi. I believe in giving my all in every RS be it whether it's meant to be or not. 'Coz I wouldn't want to regret not trying hard enough and live with "what if's?".

I also very much believe that every person comes into your life for a reason. They may leave but they'll also leave behind life lessons that I'll need to learn to grow as a person.

You're right about how we feel like a perfect fit. Yet, I think he may not be the one in the sense that I was told a few times my future husband will likely be much older and may even be a foreigner.

Well, I hope at least I can learn what potential pitfall to look out for and to make our love a beautiful one. Be it a lasting one or not.

Thank you once again!

Dear Pew,



I am Yang Fire like you and you know what I am also:

“Tiger in the Forest” according to Chinese Astrology.



Your Birth day is coming, what do you want me to give you as a Birthday’s gift?


You did have many RS, but unfortunately it didn’t work out. You are indeed passionate; this is the reason why men were attracted to you. They actually attract the first impression of you. You have in the first look Feminine personality, they attracted like bees to honey.


Later on we are going a bit deeper into the possible obstacles, but now we will look at both of your Foundations of the Pillars: the Earthly Branches.


In the Four Pillars the most sensible for a woman is her Spouse pillar or her Day Pillar. It is also her Family Pillar. A woman with her age between 30 - 40 years old is her Family Luck very important. These years she will start a Family and having Children. I always have head-ache when a woman during this age has a Clash in her 10 year Luck with her Day Pillar. For a woman it is more sensitive than a man, because mostly the man could handle such emotional black-out than a woman. Most men only cry inside, and let the stress destroy their inner health.

Coincidence your man has also exactly the same Clash with his Spouse Pillar during the same period as yours.

This is an example how Mother Nature brought both of you together. Somehow both you find the crossroad and each other. It is just magnificent how the Nature finds it own way, it is just Cosmic attraction.


Both of you have lots of commons, the reason behind it is you are Yang Fire DM and needs a Yin Water DM to balance her life. It means both of you were attract to each other for that reason.

Yang Fire and Yin Water are a natural Couple formation, it is very good news.

There are many things that both of you will discuss and work hard to keep the relationship healthy. It will not easy, because both of you will face the next ten years lots of obstacles. Of course there are also good years to come, nothing will last forever even the bad news. After the rain the sun will shine.


Mother Nature has arranged both of you, so both of you could understand your own Health. Both your Health needs more attentions in the near future. He can only understand you if he knows his own Destiny too and that is together both of you will form a strong team to support each other.


Believe me; he does need lots of support, especially from you. One of the positive of Yang Fire is never give up, a natural fighter, when he almost give up hope, he needs someone like you to support him and gives him a bright and happy day.


This is one of the Reasons that Mother Nature brought you two together.


If Love has no obstacles, Love will not have meanings.


What can I do to support you?


First I can answer all your questions to begin with and than we will see how your topic will develop.




Saphora

Wow Saphora,

So, we're both Bing Yins! Independent and fighters like you said right?

Thank you for sharing so much, I didn't expect that there'll be so many big problems between both of us 'coz everything seems so easy so far.

You helping me to answer my questions is already a great birthday gift for me this year. =)

I thought my life would get better from 35 yrs onward as one ZWDS master told me many years back. He said my life would be better after getting married.To be honest, it kind of makes me feel heavy-hearted to know that my DM clashes with my 10year LP. 'Coz be it with him or other guys, I'll be facing problems in my marriage life. Is this right?

Of course, it may be worse with him because he is also going through the clash and we'll probably find it very hard to sustain our RS. I would very much want to know how I can handle it and what exact potential problems to look out for and in which year. I also very much want to learn how to read my own bazi. Because the best I can do is to look out for potential pitfalls and make the best our of a non-ideal marriage life in my bazi.

1) I don't understand much about clashes but I do know that Shen-Yin clash is not a good one. Moreover, Yin (wood) is a favourable element to me. Does it mean that I'll lose my resource and what exactly does that mean too?

2) Also, for the Shen-Yin clash, does it mean that my spouse star will be clashed away and during this period, my spouse will be taken away as in having an affair or separated from me? Likelihood of divorce is very high too right? And I'll no longer have the support from my spouse I suppose.

3) For my bf's Chou-Wei clash, his Wei (earth) will be clash away and this is 7K to him. Earth is also his favourable element as he has a Follow The Leader chart. What does it mean as well?

4) You mentioned health problems for the both of us. Can you let me know exactly what kind of health problems I should look out for for the both of us? Shen-Yin clash may mean accident or operation for me too right?

5) I'm still curious as to whether my true husband is someone who is much older than me and is a foreigner.

6) From our charts, is this guy the one in my life? Conversely, am I the right one in his life too?

7) Do you have any suggestion as to how can I let my bf understand his destiny? He isn't a believer of Chinese Metaphysics and I'm sure all these will sound silly to him.

8) What kind of support would I be expected to give him in future? Emotional , monetary or other ones?

9) Will marriage activate both our martial palaces and bring about other effects? Maybe some positive ones I hope.

10) I know I have yuan/affinity with him now. But this yuan is not a good one right? Does it bring more negatives than positives?

I really appreciate your time and help Saphora. You have a good day!

Pew

Dear Pew,


Let’s us go deeper into your chart and see if we could get the picture more clearer.


I thought my life would get better from 35 yrs onward as one ZWDS master told me many years back. He said my life would be better after getting married.To be honest, it kind of makes me feel heavy-hearted to know that my DM clashes with my 10year LP. 'Coz be it with him or other guys, I'll be facing problems in my marriage life. Is this right?


** Indeed after that Clash pillar life is getting much better. After the half pillar life is already getting better. Sometimes the Luck pillar needs just one bad year than your life will turn up side down.


It is always sad to see such of pillar in your Luck pillar. To be honest with you, my experiences for a woman’s chart that Clash is not pretty. We should not under estimate the Roar of The Dragon (Tai Sui) when he wakes up. As long your house and environment are positive, the Dragon (Tai Sui) will be happy and will not cause problems. You can feel the situations when he will wake up, you can see it is coming.




Of course, it may be worse with him because he is also going through the clash and we'll probably find it very hard to sustain our RS. I would very much want to know how I can handle it and what exact potential problems to look out for and in which year. I also very much want to learn how to read my own bazi. Because the best I can do is to look out for potential pitfalls and make the best our of a non-ideal marriage life in my bazi.


** There are many issues about his chart, I will come back later. You are Yang Fire, always happy the next day, like a sun will rise everyday in the East.


1) I don't understand much about clashes but I do know that Shen-Yin clash is not a good one. Moreover, Yin (wood) is a favourable element to me. Does it mean that I'll lose my resource and what exactly does that mean too?


** The worst Clash is between your Day-pillar and the Ten year Luck, between ages 30-40 years old. It hurts the Family, in your circumstances it is a 7-Killing Star. 7-Killing Star will make you more under pressure; it refers to a “Second Option” in RS. A Clash could mean so many interpretations, in your circumstances it depends how strong your husband is. I do recommend strongly that both of you will be very careful, especially him in year 2016. That year is better to pray and “retreat and defend” with all you have. You could prepare to save money for that year.

A Clash in a Tiger Pillar with a Monkey means Power and Authority. Energy will be release and will condense in the husband Luck. If he is lucky he will get away with losing jobs and financial issues.




2) Also, for the Shen-Yin clash, does it mean that my spouse star will be clashed away and during this period, my spouse will be taken away as in having an affair or separated from me? Likelihood of divorce is very high too right? And I'll no longer have the support from my spouse I suppose.


** Yes, indeed it is in the worst case. To be honest my experiences tell me till now that is 100% correct. I do hope in your circumstances it will turn other directions. One of the directions could be, your husband will suffer many Health-issues. Indeed his health is very concerning; I will come back about him.

He is too weak to support you, not this current 10 year Luck.



3) For my bf's Chou-Wei clash, his Wei (earth) will be clash away and this is 7K to him. Earth is also his favourable element as he has a Follow The Leader chart. What does it mean as well?


** Yes, indeed “The Follow Leader Chart” is a very unstable chart.

I never feel comfortable with kind of chart. I use Genuine Theory of the Traditional Chinese Medicine. They don’t have such kind of Theory. It just refers to a Un-balance Chart.

To be honest, personal I don’t like that Theory of Extreme Weak. I will prove it one day. That’s the highest difficulty of reading a Chart.

His chart will activate the strong Earth-element in the year 2015 (edit text) and in year of the Dog 2018(edit text). After that he will get his life back as normal.

Yes, indeed his current 10 year Luck, he will struggle to look for solutions. Sometimes it is good to wake up and work very hard. Than you will appreciate life more, stress will give you more strength, but also lots of worries. It depends can he handle all those stress.

His Yin Water will suffer even with the “Follow the Leader type”. His Kidney will completely destroyed, be careful with his Heart and Prostate.



4) You mentioned health problems for the both of us. Can you let me know exactly what kind of health problems I should look out for for the both of us? Shen-Yin clash may mean accident or operation for me too right?


Yes, indeed his Health-problems are very concerning. I say that from my experiences, we know what is coming. His Earth elements are dominating; Earth is one of the worst enemies of the Immune System. When that Immune system is exaggerated the first organs will suffer is his Kidney and Prostate. The second organ is his Heart and Blood-pressure.

Yes, indeed in the Lucky case it is just an operation. His 7-Killing Stars are very Powerful, and that is not so good news. Surely it will be better after year 2015 and 2018. Unfortunately the 7-killing Stars are permanent in his Chart; it will get worst in year 2015.

For your circumstances in year 2016, probably it already starts in year 2056 the stress will increase. It is just the Planetary Energy which blocks all your Qi-energy.

When all the Qi-energy is blocked, it is better to try to be calm and relax so the Internal Qi will circulate again. If not, one of the organs in your body can not release all the Destructive Energy and Health problems will occur.





5) I'm still curious as to whether my true husband is someone who is much older than me and is a foreigner.

** Yes, indeed your true partner is older than you. He is waiting for you in the future after your worst 10 year Luck. You will meet him and you will also meet all the good people who are willing to help you. Your auspicious period will start earlier than you might think. Just biting through in year 2015 and 2016 and everything will be all right.


I can’t see if he is a foreigner or not.


6) From our charts, is this guy the one in my life? Conversely, am I the right one in his life too?


Yes, we are living in the current time. At this moment both you are compatible. At present Mother Nature chooses that you are the one for him.

Mother Nature chooses him for you has a reason, just be happy together and together will be strong. Be happy what you have and do not wait till a better will arrive. Sometimes that better will never come, and you will loose everything.


7) Do you have any suggestion as to how can I let my bf understand his destiny? He isn't a believer of Chinese Metaphysics and I'm sure all these will sound silly to him.


** Just let me know about his parents, if you have their DOB. I will convince him about his Chronic Health illness. Even the Doctor can not see what I can see about his illness.




8) What kind of support would I be expected to give him in future? Emotional , monetary or other ones?

Everything, when his 7-Killing Star is activated, he will need all the help he can get. He will feel it in his bones in year 2016. Until then he will be skeptic about Metaphysics. Most of the problems are related to financial issues, just save it for the raining days.



9) Will marriage activate both our martial palaces and bring about other effects? Maybe some positive ones I hope.


When two people combine in form of a marriage, you will have 16 Characters instead of 8. As long you are supporting each other, it will be harder for Mother Nature to change your direction.
Love will be always stronger than all other Energy forms.


10) I know I have yuan/affinity with him now. But this yuan is not a good one right? Does it bring more negatives than positives?

Life has always a meaning, even why a Crossroad brings both of you together. Life is like a Chess Game from Mother Nature. The game had been long finished before you are been born. When you are born, the finished game is just a start of your life.

Be strong and be happy what you have and make your life a better place in your heart.




Saphora

Hi Saphora,

Thank you once again for sharing so much. I know it isn't easy to share bad news and our charts have some pretty bad news in store. And it really breaks my heart to hear that about my man.

The reading has been done from a spousal point of view so far. I was thinking maybe things won't turn out so bad as long as we're not married right?

Anyway, we're only happily attached for 1 month so far. And who knows, we may not even end up getting married to each other.

1) How does the Shen-Yin clash activate my 7k star? I understand that if this is so, I'll be the one with the lover and not my spouse right? 'Coz 7k to a female is bf, am I correct? Or is it him who will have women problems?

His chart will activate the strong Earth-element in the year 2016 and in year of the Dog 2019. After that he will get his life back as normal.
2) 2019 is a Ji Hai year, do you mean 2018, a Wu Xu year? His life will be better in 2018 right?

I got this form a website: Shen and Si 申巳合 is a combination. When Yin appears, it clashes with Shen thus causing harm to Si. Therefore Yin harms Si. Or Hai appears and clashes Si causing harm to Shen. Thus Hai harms Shen.
Sounds like the harm is to both our months' branches and we're causing each other harm.

3) I understand that in 2016, Si-Shen combines to give water and water is an unfavourable element to him. What about 2019 then? How is the harm formed?

4) Since he is a very weak (Follow The Leader) chart, shouldn't 7k be good for him?

5) I gather that my health problems will arise from the stress in my environment. For his, it's more serious from the way you've written.

6) Which year will I meet my true husband?

7) Marriage seem to do this guy more harm. Shouldn't it be better if he doesn't get married? Or am I the wrong one for him in this case? Does my bazi bring more harm to him?

When two people combine in form of a marriage, you will have 16 Characters instead of 8. As long you are supporting each other, it will be harder for Mother Nature to change your direction.
Love will be always stronger than all other Energy forms.
8) I don't quite understand the above meaning. I know in a way love conquers more than you think it can. But our bazi seem to be killing each other off. Isn't it worse if we combine?

Mother Nature chooses him for you has a reason, just be happy together and together will be strong. Be happy what you have and do not wait till a better will arrive. Sometimes that better will never come, and you will loose everything.

Life has always a meaning, even why a Crossroad brings both of you together. Life is like a Chess Game from Mother Nature. The game had been long finished before you are been born. When you are born, the finished game is just a start of your life.
9) You mentioned that the game is finished before we were born. So, events that are going to happen will happen regardless. Yet you say not to wait for the right person to arrive. But isn't it my destiny code that my true husband is waiting at the end of the day somewhere somehow? Why would he or the better never come?


Please do not worry that I will choose to hold back or not get into a marriage with him if eventually we do walk down that path. I just want to understand how to read the destiny's code better. I believe that human being still has a choice at the end of the day. Even choosing the attitude is a choice.

If my life has been planned this way before I was born and he has come into it, I'll love him and give him my all until our yuan fen is over. If it even does end in the end.

By the way, I'm also curious as to how does one define true love/the one, is it the one we'll be walking into the sunset with eventually?

Saphora, I have indeed learn a lot form you. And I'm really grateful for this. Your words have taught me to read and understand my own bazi and my dear bf's one too. It has been enlightening. It makes me more even convicted to live in the moment, to treasure him while I can and cherish our time together while the times are good.

I just realised the beauty of the image you've posted; it's almost like an opposite flow for the both of us. Fitting in so nicely... One day, I'm sure I'll understand the reason why our paths crossed even if we were to be about to bring so much pain to each other.

Hear from you again soon! =)

Saphora, one more question. This guy has very high sex drive and needs goodnight? Will this cause problem in his marriage?

Dear Pew,


I have correct year 2015 (Goat year) and year 2016(Monkey), thanks.



1) How does the Shen-Yin clash activate my 7k star? I understand that if this is so, I'll be the one with the lover and not my spouse right? 'Coz 7k to a female is bf, am I correct? Or is it him who will have women problems?

** Your current 10 year Luck is the 7-Killing Star in the HS, it means this Star will appear into your life. By a Clash with your Spouse pillar, another hidden 7-Killing Star will shaken up from hidden into the surface. Normally hidden Stems are keep hidden until a year-pillar or a ten year pillar had to force it coming into the surface.

This ten year your will meet a 7-killing Star, or someone else Lover. At least you will meet a Lover during this 10 year Luck. A Direct Officer star is much better than that 7-Killing Star.


His problems coincidence with your problems, be careful that we mix both charts.

His chart will activate the strong Earth-element in the year 2016 and in year of the Dog 2019. After that he will get his life back as normal.
2) 2019 is a Ji Hai year, do you mean 2018, a Wu Xu year? His life will be better in 2018 right?

**Yes, indeed I have corrected it; his life will be better after year 2018.

I got this form a website: Shen and Si 申巳合 is a combination. When Yin appears, it clashes with Shen thus causing harm to Si. Therefore Yin harms Si. Or Hai appears and clashes Si causing harm to Shen. Thus Hai harms Shen.
Sounds like the harm is to both our months' branches and we're causing each other harm.

** There are many possible combinations available. A Harm always exist, but it is only strong when it supported by the external 10 year Luck or a Tai Sui year.

When Shen and Si try to combine, like a harmony, and it will disturb by a Yin and Shen, but the current 10 year Luck is much powerful and an external year. Please keep it simple, than it is already difficult enough.


3) I understand that in 2016, Si-Shen combines to give water and water is an unfavourable element to him. What about 2019 then? How is the harm formed?


** I have corrected, see above. Those years 2015 and 2018 are stress years for him. Earth will be very strong, leads his chart into deep tress.


4) Since he is a very weak (Follow The Leader) chart, shouldn't 7k be good for him?


**That Theory is IMO very dangerous to decode. His Earth element is already too strong and more Earth means crazy strong. It doesn’t matter what kind of chart you have: first rule is Balance.

If you say overwhelm strong and an unbalance chart is good for him, I don’t buy this Theory.

I always go back to the Genuine TCM theory in special cases. Imagine Fire organ is his Heart and is overwhelmed strong, his leader. That Theory says when you increase Fire for the Leader is good for him. What happen when his Heart gets overloaded? Yes, indeed a Heart Attack with immense consequences.

I do understand that Theory follow the Leader very well. Everything is moderate, even for a Follow the Leader type.

Follow the Leader only works when other elements can influence the leader element, like a good leader and not the Dictator like in his chart.


Be very careful with the Follow the Leader Chart. There are more complications behind this Theory. I wouldn’t like to discuss this Theory.


5) I gather that my health problems will arise from the stress in my environment. For his, it's more serious from the way you've written.


**Yes, his Health is more serious. His Internal elements are unbalance; it will make it worst this external 10 years.




6) Which year will I meet my true husband?

** Your current Love is the right Love. Never wait for a better choice, be happy what you have and work it out. Otherwise you keep waiting and the better one will maybe never come. In a good period doesn’t always mean you will indeed get a better one. It is still just 8 Characters in general.

It could be that he is not the best for now, but later on he will change into a better person with his luck.



7) Marriage seem to do this guy more harm. Shouldn't it be better if he doesn't get married? Or am I the wrong one for him in this case? Does my bazi bring more harm to him?

** Marriage is just a commitment by signing paperwork. In modern world Living together like husband and wife are more common nowadays. People are too busy to go back to the Traditional Marriage. When Harms come, you cannot hide, even with a selection of your bazi. Everything has a meaning.


When two people combine in form of a marriage, you will have 16 Characters instead of 8. As long you are supporting each other, it will be harder for Mother Nature to change your direction.
Love will be always stronger than all other Energy forms.
8) I don't quite understand the above meaning. I know in a way love conquers more than you think it can. But our bazi seem to be killing each other off. Isn't it worse if we combine?

** When two people join their Body and Soul together, will act like one. They share also their future. Even in bad times, you must bite it through and not wait till you will meet a better one. Nothing is Black and White in a Marriage, it is all relative.



Mother Nature chooses him for you has a reason, just be happy together and together will be strong. Be happy what you have and do not wait till a better will arrive. Sometimes that better will never come, and you will loose everything.

Life has always a meaning, even why a Crossroad brings both of you together. Life is like a Chess Game from Mother Nature. The game had been long finished before you are been born. When you are born, the finished game is just a start of your life.
9) You mentioned that the game is finished before we were born. So, events that are going to happen will happen regardless. Yet you say not to wait for the right person to arrive. But isn't it my destiny code that my true husband is waiting at the end of the day somewhere somehow? Why would he or the better never come?


** Listen to your Heart, and follow your decisions. Actually everything is influence by your sub-consciousness.

Time and space will tell you the truth.


You are Yang Fire DM, and are passionate too. You don’t mind if he is in Sex Drive. Most of men do that when they meet a new relationship.

As I said it before his Prostate network will suffer first. It will dry out first. A double Goat and Snake pillars are in Fire season, Fire refers often to Desire and Intimacy.

His Fire and Earth elements are his “Leader”, like an addition for intimacy. He doesn’t think, he just listens to his “Leader” or his addition.




Intimacy is good as long he understands a woman's body, than he will enjoy more than he would imagine. Just follow the Cycle period pattern of a woman, than you will know when to act so both of you can enjoy the pleasure of life.




Saphora

Hi Saphora,

I think you're an advocate of going with the flow right? As in if Mother Nature has arranged for it so there must be a reason why I have to go through tough times with this guy. (Maybe to repay my past life's debt to him?) Actually, I am an advocate of that too but to a certain extent only.

Do you believe in human's will to change or at least steer course of destiny slightly?

I was told that I'll have Tao Huas appearing after marriage and I need to remember not to be involved as it'll harm my marriage. I hope and still strongly believe that I can fight it off. Or do you believe that since my Bazi says so, I'm bound to betray my husband?

It'll be interesting to hear your thoughts. what do you think?

BTW, will this guy have lover problem? I don't mean that he has very high sex drive for now, being new in a RS. I think he generally is a very high sex drive individual. And I hope this won't cause us problems in the future. I believe in chaneling this energy elsewhere sometimes but he believes in acting on it.

Or will my man have mainly health and financial problems? He's a very thrifty guy so I'm not afraid for him for now. He doesn't spend without thinking. He thinks real hard before spending in fact. Haha...

I also think our subconscious mind influences us much more than we know. But you know what? I click so well with my man now. Yet, at times, I feel that he hasn't grown as far as I have for now. Some of his thoughts and values were like me maybe 5-6 years back. It's like I understand why he feels or thinks a certain way 'coz I've went through that before. And sometimes, I wonder is whether it's because I need a more matured man in my life for stability. I was with a guy quite a few years older before this relationship. We had our fights but he has also brought me stability in my life. the kind of stability that I don't feel with this guy right from the start of our RS.

I really don't want a divorce in my life. If this man is not right, I'll still stay with him but I'll work things through the tough times. I'm really not willing to go with my heart fully. As in dive into it or rush into it. 'Coz when I get married, I want children and I don't want my children to go through the pains of divorce. I rather wait out the tough times to see if we can still last. If so, great for us. If not, it may just be a blessing that we didn't enter a marriage to have children.

BTW, will I even have a child this lifetime?

Oh yah, and if you were to rate the compatibility of our bazi, will it be a 9/10? I'm just curious for my own bazi education. I know our luck pillar is not the most ideal but what about bazi chart wise?

Life is a mystery. Maybe I'll learn the mysteries of the world more when I am old. To finally find out whether the force is so great that we can hardly fight it. Or that our free will will change our course afterall....
Thanks much again! =)

Hi Pew,




I think you're an advocate of going with the flow right?

** Although I am still young, but I have seen so much about real life. I slowly understand about meaning of life: Be Happy with the decision of Mother Nature.

Maybe to repay my past life's debt to him?

** I am not as religious as you are to think about Past Life’s debt. The reason is that I just believe in the Western Science of the Theory of Mendell: DNA and Heritage. Nature always tries to improve their DNA over thousands of years to survive.

It is very rare to see someone’s with a good chart, marry with someone with a bad chart. Nature doesn’t allow having that. It always tries to create a better chart.


Do you believe in human's will to change or at least steer course of destiny slightly?

** Sure, life is like a digital picture. When you zoom in, you just see the dots; even you change the dots and move the dots. When you zoom out, the picture seems not to change.
You can change your Destiny within its boundary, but when you look at the whole Destiny, it didn’t change much.

All human life is moving like dots in the picture, but the total picture is still there: almost unchanged.


I was told that I'll have Tao Huas appearing after marriage and I need to remember not to be involved as it'll harm my marriage. I hope and still strongly believe that I can fight it off. Or do you believe that since my Bazi says so, I'm bound to betray my husband?

**Deep in your heart, you are not a person who had the intention to betray your husband. Men couldn’t resist your immense Energy. It is just during this 10 year Luck, which will put your marriage under pressure.
If you believe so, why don’t you betray him with me, I just help you fulfill your Destiny, right?

Yang Fire likes to flirt, but cheating, no!

BTW, will this guy have lover problem? I don't mean that he has very high sex drive for now, being new in a RS. I think he generally is a very high sex drive individual.

** Yes, his 7-Killing Star is indeed Killing him. 7-Killing Star you could refer it as an Addiction, like Intimacy. Like a Drug controls someone’s addiction, body and mind. Like surrender to his Intimacy addition: Follow the Addition type.

He could very demanding and always push to the limit, gets what he wants.

Or will my man have mainly health and financial problems? He's a very thrifty guy so I'm not afraid for him for now. He doesn't spend without thinking. He thinks real hard before spending in fact. Haha...
** For a man is very easy, as long he has a woman, it means he will always have money. This is one of the reasons why some woman said: No Money No Sex. He probably will suffer from bad health from his Addiction.



I also think our subconscious mind influences us much more than we know. .. I don't feel with this guy right from the start of our RS.

** Yes, Your DM are very comparable, this is why the first impressions so important.


BTW, will I even have a child this lifetime?
** Both of you have a very weak Re-productive Organ, Water-element. Your current 10 year Luck, Water will have the change to flow.
Look back since you were a teenager till now, you were all the time in Fire-season. Those years were the years that could weaken your Re-productive organ. It means in the beginning your Water-element is already almost destroyed. If you want to have children, this year might be the last change. Fire season is coming and it will make your Re-productive organ even weaker. His Re-productive organ is weakened day by day; it dries out very fast, maybe too fast.



Oh yah, and if you were to rate the compatibility of our bazi, will it be a 9/10? I'm just curious for my own bazi education. I know our luck pillar is not the most ideal but what about bazi chart wise?

**The first choice is always the right choice. My Astrological Relationship Calculator says that you both are very common, like two dreamers and someone need to pay the bill. It gives both of you just 53% not enough for long term relationship.
But I would say, same problem, same health-issue, respect and understand each other much better, because both of you share the same problems. Yes, close to 9/10.






Life is a mystery. Maybe I'll learn the mysteries of the world more when I am old. To finally find out whether the force is so great that we can hardly fight it. Or that our free will will change our course afterall....

** Yes, indeed life is too short to correct it. When you know it, there is no time left to change it.



Saphora

Hi Saphora,

Nice to hear from you and chat with you every night!

Your riddles are getting harder to decipher. Maybe you can try to be a little more straight forward. I am having a hard time guessing.

I'll not betray my bf so I can only flirt with you; like how you say it's ingrained in my DNA and bazi. Hehe...

I like your analogy about the dots. That's what I always think it's like as well. We have slight room for manourvering but it'll bring us back to somewhat the same destination ultimately



** Yes, his 7-Killing Star is indeed Killing him. 7-Killing Star you could refer it as an Addiction, like Intimacy. Like a Drug controls someone’s addiction, body and mind. Like surrender to his Intimacy addition: Follow the Addition type.

Do you mean both he and myself will have lover's problems?? OMG, that's terrible. Or is it just his addiction to intimacy/sex. If it's just that and he's addicted to his gal, I'm ok. But to find other people and me having temptations at the same, what will happen to our lives?? Sounds too filled with sexual and emotional problems.



** For a man is very easy, as long he has a woman, it means he will always have money. This is one of the reasons why some woman said: No Money No Sex. He probably will suffer from bad health from his Addiction.

So, he'll have help from his wife/woman like you mentioned before right?



**The first choice is always the right choice. My Astrological Relationship Calculator says that you both are very common, like two dreamers and someone need to pay the bill. It gives both of you just 53% not enough for long term relationship.
But I would say, same problem, same health-issue, respect and understand each other much better, because both of you share the same problems. Yes, close to 9/10.

So is it 9/10 or 53%? Or is it 9/10 for now and 53% for long term? Then how can he be the right partner for the distant future if he's 53% for long term?



Since life is short, I'm trying my best to right my life. I'm not diving into this RS anymore. Maybe flirt more to get to know people? Hahha.. just kidding.

Anymore inputs from anyone?

I just broke up with the guy I mentioned in the first post.

Feeling sian about things. Will I ever get married? Can someone help to read?