David,
Ah... I see.
This is a fact, a fact that wealth and ability to change things in his life is largely controlled by his wife.
If you truly wish to be taken care of in ways that you think his wife may obstruct,
I would say that you will need to 'fall into her good books'.
I know this is atrocious as you're the elder afterall, but you may have to check your own attitude and outlook in life.
This is perhaps one key thing I can offer to you, and also from your chart.
Changing your attitude and the expectations of how you would expect others to treat you, can really make a DIFFERENCE FOR YOU.
J