I hope someone will have the patient to read and help me as I'm kind of desperate.
My flat has the front door opening South-West (241 degrees) and facing North-East. Rectangle shape (missing small part on South corner, near the door entrance). The rectangle flat diagonal (end near the entrance, on the missing part) is closest to the N-S direction.
All of my family members are from West group except my oldest son (5.5 years) who is an East one. And we do have some troubles with him since we moved in here, 2 years ago. He's not speaking correctly at his age, not paying enough attention, agitated, frustrated, always against everyone and everything and so on.
I must say that many times when we enter our home he instantly dislike all and starts being stubborn and agitated, refusing to do simple things we ask for like take off his shoes, undress or wash his hands.
The flat has only one bedroom and one living room. Also a kitchen and a bathroom. A balcony on NE to N. Is a very small flat with small rooms.
His favorable areas from our apartment are in the kitchen (it's right across the entrance door) and some part of our living room.
The children bedroom covers the W, NW and N according the map.
Our intention is to have both children sleep in this bedroom.
I don't know how to position my older son bed because he's favorable direction are S, N, SE and E.
How do I find the bed position for him?
1. Should I use/follow the Bagua map on the bedroom sketch?
2. Can I use bunk beds? I read that it's not a good ideea. He should be above his one year old brother.
3. Is his bed realy need to be on S,N, SE or E sector of the bedroom/flat or can I just put it anywhere in the bedroom but with his head on one favorable direction? But this year E and SE are not so good for him, right?
4. What if the wall from E, SE and S sectors of the bedrooms are either comun with the bathroom or at the window?
5. What if the N-S direction/line is not a wall line and E-W is a diagonal?
I would like to use bunk beds or at least a murphy bed for eldest son for saving as much space as I can but how should I position the beds? The room is so small for both of them and for a study area.
Therefore, if I put a (murphy) bed for him on a good direction, the feet are pointing the door and the both children beds are intersecting (which I read is not good for their relation).
Please help me as I'm confused after reading dozen of articles and files and tired of searching a solution for my older son without success.
I attached a sketch of the flat.
My husband has Kua no = 8 (born in june 1974, Tiger sign), I'm Kua no 2 (born in july 78, Horse sign). Baby has Kua no 8 (august 2010, Tiger sign) and the first son has Kua no 3 (march 2006, Dog sign)
Thank you in advance for your help.
Moving can be very hard on children because there are often many changes that happen at the same time.
1) Try not to label your son as different because he is as East group person & the rest of youi are West group -this will cause more problems. Since he now has younger siblings, this can also be part of the problem as he does get to spend as much time with you as before.
2) try not to use bunk beds, but a murphy bed os a good idea.
3) Place the head of his bed in his best direction
Is the door to your flat on the ground floor? Or on the 9th floor or above? And is the entrance to your flat to the outside, or do youi enter through a main door to the building and then have a separate door into your flat?
I am trying to put the head of his bed in his best direction but I don't know how should I physically do that. I have only a small bedroom for 2 children and my eldest son best sectors are near the bathroom or the window and his best directions are not in the line with any of the walls.
Maybe I got confused reading so many articles and FS methods...and don't know what to do anymore. I still didn't make and/or place a bed of his own in the children bedroom.
Could anyone just show/point/draw in the sketch of my flat where and how his bed should be placed? I'm asking maybe too much but it would be so helpful to me.
Then I can find and conceive a construction design solution for his bed.
I was even thinking that his bed might be a suspended platform that slides in the sleeping position who should coincide with his best direction and during the day the platform should align on/with the wall for space and eye comfort improvement.
The flat is at the 3rd floor of a 10 floors (+ ground floor) apartments building.
I enter through the main door of the building, take the elevator which leaves me at 3rd floor, I enter in a common small hall that provides access to 4 apartments. So, I have a separate door to enter in my flat and my flat door orientation is different from the building one.
Thank you, Lady Moon.
Last Edit: 2 years, 3 months ago by kenitza. Reason: forgetting something
A look at your eldest's bazi might shed some light on his behavior. It could help you better understand who this little guy is, what his needs and talents are, etc. You might also learn how to support him
as he is kua 3, the best is for his head to face E, which doesn't work in his room
SE is fine, NE and NW a mistake. SW will do him no real harm
Don't let feng shui drive you crazy. If what appears to be the perfect feng shui arrangement is ugly or awkward or likely to be upsetting to the kids then it is of no use. Always remember Heaven (bazi), Earth (feng shui), Man (ourselves). If we satisfy one and outrage another we haven't done so well. Your son no doubt has his own opinion about all of this. Is it worth asking him?
Seems to me that if the room is full of beds there'll be no place for play. Can that make a child happy?
Don't despair. The situation may not be nearly as bad as you think.