hi all sifu,
I really need some advice, me n my wife is havin a really tough time seeing eye to eye. V had a daughter, n i love my dotter a lot. Sou man fong said before, a child with hair on her fore head will have a troublesome and broken childhood. My wife has recently ask for a divorce, of course, i do not want to part ways with my dotter. It seems like i m destine to part with both of them, i too think i deserve the best in a relationship, i m suffering now for the way how my wife treat me. If from my bazi it can tell i am destined to fail to have a family life, i think its for the good for all of us, and no point forcing to be together as i m no longer a happy man now.
My dob:13/10/1976 2pm
My wife dob:16/10/1980 2pm
My daughter dob:17/12/2008 10am
Appreciate a sincere and truthfull comment. Thankyou!
Re: can i avoid destiny?
1 year, 3 months ago #16383
I'm, beginner in astrology so I won't comment.
And I don't know your case, I won't give you advice.
But I can say that if it comes to astrology, I always try to remember that:
Free will overbeats destiny.
That is to say that your deeds are more important than astrology, you can overcome bad faith with charity.
In case of a family and children, love towards someone is most important. The child needs it most.
i am a believer of what you just said, and insist on that principle for so long, looks like it's falling apart....
maybe my title is too "scary" for people to advice or comment because it will split my family
i am not afraid of that, i am looking for an answer, of course knowing there is no permanent in life that it will be that way...just to see, if destiny indeed lay down the cards that way for me and i should have stop striving....cause my striving is not helping, in fact is hurting more people...
Destiny can be avoided by knowing the future and taking the necessary steps to manipulate it.
Family and marriage matters are no easy task. They can be the source of happiness or heartbreak. It always takes hard work and compromise from both sides to work through it.
From yours and your wife's bazi, both of your share similar views and thinking on almost everything due to the same birth month.
Your daughter's hair on forehead does not mean her parents will divorce. It just means that she does not have good relationship with her father hence it is not good for her marriage. To solve this, do get involve with your daughter's daily activities. Do talk to her frequently and create a father-daughter bond. As for her marriage, it is best to get married after age 30.
The reason your wife asked for a divorce this year is due to the influence of the dragon. Since both your spouse palace is dog, the year dragon has clashed with it creating marital problems. Also you being a dragon, you have clashed the taisui this year. Clash comes in both ways, being of the same year and opposite animal sign as the taisui. The 'clash' happening to you is a self punishment (dragon-dragon). Did you do something wrong that could have caused your wife to seek for divorce?
You are a very strong will and stubborn person. You have many friends but prefer to keep to yourself. You spouse has the tendency to control over you and is not happy when you do not listen and follow as she instructs. You're going through the Yin Metal Ox luck which is not favourable. It is destructing your marriage palace for you hence the double whammy to your marriage (Dragon and Ox attacking your Dog in the marriage palace).
Next year yin water snake will be better for both you and your wife. Here are a few suggestions.
1. Discuss the marriage issues and work it out together.
2. Spend more time with your family. I think you have been working too hard due to the yin metal hurting officer in your ox luck.
3. Woo your wife like how you used to do to make her fall in love with you again. A little bit of romance may improve things.
4. Check your house fengshui which could help in easing the marriage problem.
Remember there are a few forms that create destiny. Heaven's luck, fengshui and man's effort. When heaven's luck is not to our favour, we still have fengshui and our own effort to improve things. All the best man!