My child is born on

Day Month Year
GENG DING GENG
Horse HAI TIGER

What is your advise on his behavior and feng shui

Is there a problem? If so, what?

He Threw tantrums

request your father's help

What year was this child born?

16 Oct 2010. I want to be a good parent. Guide me and i will learn. Teach me and i will progress.
It is those born in tiger year will be fierce and temperant ? What is consider a good chart ? A combo will be good ?

davidyong71,

Your child is only 2 and is testing the limits of what he can do. It is up to you as his father to set those limits. When he has a tantrum, remove him from the area. Do NOT give him what he wants, or he will becoming demanding and act this way all the time, because he has learned that to get something (toys, attention, etc) he will get what he wants as soon as he has a tantrum.

It is difficult to handle, but that is why parents call this time of childhood the "terrible 2's." As a son, you know that children are not given everything they want no matter how much they feel they should have everything they want. As a parent, you will learn that it is hard not to give your child everything he wants, but that he will grow to be a better person if you do not give him everything - especially if he is demanding.

Remember, a demamding child is lonely - no one wants them around because the behavior is bad and they are selfish. They become a lonely adult. Working to raise and teach a child is not an easy job, but the best job ever. Talk to your parents about this. I am sure they will have a lot of wisdom to share.

All the best to you and your family. Your lives will be rich with love,
lady moon

I have try teaching him how to talk but he is still can't call daddy and mommy now. My friend child 1 year has learned all this. Nowaday children learn and growth fast. my friend 8 years know how to surf net.

Hi David

Relax..... u will see better... i know i am not u... but i am going to tell u why must relax... imagine u are a primary school teacher dealing with so many such kids..... see? worry cannot solved the problem so let patience solve it.

whenevr he throw tantrums, must be out of a reason, which we adults may not notice coz its so minute...
so what to do when he "high" again?

1) hold his hand or carry him up (do not grab or introduce violent acts) - to install security, let him know u are same side with him

2) bring him for a walk in the gardens, asked him: do u know what is a spider? how does it looks like? now lets go find spider. when u found one , or pretend to find spider home, etc mainpoint is to tell him spider is alwys alone, do u know why? becoz spider fight with their family and eats them, hence no body left to play with him, do u want to be liek spider? wait for his answer, then u say ya just now you (tell him specifically what he does e.g if throw books, shout, scream etc) is call trhowing tantrum, and this is no good, just liek spider eating his family. do u want papa mama at home play with u? etc.. lead him on to GOOD Values.

3) i suspect ur child has difficulty expressing himself. and at his stage he duno what is right and wrong, he is like a piece of paper, whatver u and wife poured in, he will think is ok to do, without knowing the values.

4) why u need to bring him see sipder, becoz child under 10 are pictorial in their cognitive level, they learnt better with what they can see. so keep a spider book at home. in case u cannot find the psider in thegarden, u stilll can show him.. the GARDEN is important becoz it brings him away from the spot where he did wrong, bring him go elsewhere to let his emotions wear off.
if u stay there, he will always have bad memories of the place. Just like we adults, if husband quarrell with wife while eating at this particular restaurant, would u want to go there again?

5) understand that your child now duno what is wrong and rgiht, and he is expressing difficulty in expressions, do not work out so fast, PATIENCE.

6) Sorry for what i am going to say, becoz i duno how to put it in a way better but what i feel is if u compare ur child to somebody else, then u should compare the maufacturers, logical? fair? right? [sorry sorry sorry, no offence, no hard feelings]

7) i can see that u are a good father, thats why i have the chance to read ur posts here, my sugesstions in summary to u is add this to ur teaching method, which is PICtorial teaching, like when u tell him e.g " u screamed and throw my books, is wrong! [at the same time, cross ur arms and show a sad face.] then u must tell him, what he can do, don't just stop here.. must show him a way to let his emotions off.. DO NOT SAY THINGS LIKE " u should not get angry,..... or u are a bad boy! " Instead u can say: when u angry, go to wash room wash face/ drink water, or take a piece of paper to draw.....etc.. anything that will channel off his emotions but within ur acceptance. Aim the deeds, not the person. Your Child is a good child. BELIEVE!

Good Luck father! Patience!

add ons:

when he do something correct, thumbs up and shows a happy face!

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